Today is and might be one of the hardest days of my life
We have stopped all medications that will prolong moms life
I feel like I have been punched in the stomach waiting
I still want and need my husband desperately
If moms gets to leave the hospital will have hospice care team
Please lift up prayers for peace for moms and pray Umair is allowed to be by my side
Update Mom died tonight at 800 pm in hospital 07/30/2024. She was saying to nurses she was having anxiety she had been having this it’s likely the GI bleed or heart caused. Update the doctors knew the bleed was not controlled they didn’t correct whatever happened to first do no harm.
And along with so many things on our wedding day and the happiest, most beautiful day
Today and every day
Since the day we began
I promise to love you even on days when you struggle to love yourself, and then I promise to love you even more
I promise to honor you, and on days when you feel like no one is listening then, I promise to listen closer and hold you tighter than before
I promise to treasure you every single day, on days when you struggle, and then remember all our memories and the beautiful, loving journey we have together
I promise to love you in sickness and in health, and on the days when you feel your health is less, then I will love you even more than yesterday and even more than tomorrow
I love you
I love you
I love you, Umair, so freaking much
On this day two years ago, we were spending our last night sleeping wrapped in each other’s arms
It’s another Friday again, and I’m crazy missing my husband, Umair
I have to say that one of our biggest frustrations while waiting for our case to be approved and for Umair to be able to come to the United States with me is next-level annoying. People seem to have forgotten that those of us who live in the United States are all immigrants. I grew up a military brat, so I was surrounded by culture. My playground was in Panama.
The system is broken, and something has to be done to fix it. I hear every day about the unification of families and the government allowing people who entered the United States illegally to be unified with their families! Still, there are those couples who follow the rules and listen to the system and follow the rules only to be slowed down. Mom has now likely had a heart attack with troponin levels at 936! Now, in complete kidney failure, a GI bleed we can’t fix. I need my husband, and he needs me. While I sit in the hospital worrying, my husband is in Pakistan, frustrated and worrying because he wants to be by my side and here to be with his mother-in-law as well. When we ask for expedite it’s for a reason and not to chase or cut people in line. I have three masters degrees in education, so I’m well aware of turn taking! But humans have to matter and so when people ask for urgency there is a reason!!
So this week with Mom, who was already heart failure, a fib, a new pacemaker, diabetes, kidney failure, and COPD emphysema-like symptoms. Complications of advancing kidney failure from 3B to teetering three points from complete renal failure. Anyone asks why having your support system with you is essential when going through these things daily. I drive to the hospital, and my mom has now had five blood transfusions, which is already risky and complicated for a heart failure patient. I need my husband next to me. He is my support system. So each day, as I drive an hour to the hospital and an hour home, and most days, I’m exhausted and forget to eat until I drive home later in the day. I need my husband in every second. And still, people take their time processing what already should have done which is land my husband by my side along with mom matters! Needless to say for everyone sitting here worried about moms it’s been an awful week!