Hurry up get and get on that plane! Get on the plane Umair! ILYVM💜
Throughout the duration of dating being in separate countries Umair has heard this phrase a million and one times and bore it so beautifully! Each and every time I miss him!
I don’t even know if I have words to describe this mom’s moment properly. I went in to hook up the c-pap and oxygen, as always I ask do you need anything? Do you want to pee. She looks up sweetly and says “what honey” and “it’s ok, ohhh it’s snowing” with the most beautiful smile. I don’t know where she was tonight in her dreams or between here and there. But even if for only a moment she was filled with happiness. The photo is mom, my brother and I.
I used to write a lot more of the sweetness and spiciness of my mom’s on this side. Umair’s mother-in-law, the children of our flock, and our extended family have climbed uphill since August 2023. In August 2023, I took Mom to the hospital with what appeared to be a heart episode. The first hospital and we won’t mention any names, Amberwell Health, for the most part, ran a series of tests and diminished what each of us had been reporting. Then, we were put on spironolactone (sp). It is considered a wonder drug diuretic for people with heart failure. However, when you are in advanced kidney stage 3-B, it is contraindicated.
After what was almost two months of nightmares and some of the most horrific side effects, I finally convinced the doctors to discontinue the medicine! Yay! It’s about this time that we got connected with Dr. Patel at the Cotton O’Neil cardiologist team. I can’t say enough nice things about him. He not only cared about her heart but how her kidneys were functioning as well. Since that appointment, we have had two cardioversions, one pacemaker implant trip to the nephrology clinic, and trips to the pulmonology clinic. We’ve been to palliative care and pain management. This week, we enter the next phase, where they complete the AP mode ablation to get the pacemaker to communicate with her body. It is exciting that we might get her to feel a little better. A team of specialists advised me she would never be out of a fib. The pacemaker’s job is to hopefully override her body so she won’t be aware when she’s in active a fib. She’s also bradycardic.
Also, from the nephrologist, we may have flipped into acute kidney failure, which now may result in us meeting dialysis from the pacemaker implant and the beautiful things that pain meds and anesthesia do to people who have acute kidney failure!! From the pulmonology clinic, mom has COPD as a result of her worsening heart failure, which I previously forgot to mention heart failure. Also on the list of symptoms and requires oxygen around the clock! Most days are an uphill climb! Today, I’m grateful as I watch her changing cognitively, which may be a result of the vascular changes due to heart failure worsening. Mom also has diabetes, and the past week has been a never-ending saga of trauma from an intestinal flu bug. We’re fighting to get her ready for the surgery that will come later this week. Today, I’m grateful I got two kisses for one popsicle and could make it through two baths and one shower. I also have a disabled child who requires constant care. So, if anyone wonders why, I wish every day that USCIS would process our expedite and get Umair home. Does anyone know of a man who would stand by your side with all this other than a bonafide saint? I love him!